I wanted to touch on a very important subject today - I delivered by third baby a few weeks ago so I am here to talk about something people ask me all the time: “How do you keep it together and get through the day with three kids under 5”. My answer honestly is that you do what you have to do and get through the day without any expectations.
Here are some of my tips for making the self love easier during your postpartum period.
I am not putting on a face for anyone.
That’s right! No make up on, hair up in a bun, I’ve got a dress on and my nursing bra on. I’m not worried about looking put together before anyone comes to the door. That’s not what this period is about! It’s about taking care of yourself or taking care of your baby. I don’t put myself together before people come over.
Don’t Worry about making requests of the people coming over to your house.
Set boundaries and delegate. If people are coming to your house to hold your baby - make sure they bring you something to eat! Make sure they’re coming over and doing something while they’re there; entertaining your kids, putting in some laundry, doing something helpful around the house while you’re holed up on the couch tending to baby.
Also make sure people know that if you’re expecting them at a certain time to be punctual! Nothing is worse than sitting waiting for someone to come over that said they would be there at a certain time and it keeps you from from feeding the baby, taking a nap, taking care of older siblings or leaving for errands and appointments, etc. You’re the inflexible one at this juncture and that’s okay!
Don’t worry about the scale!
Seriously! I have quite a ways to go to get back to my pre baby weight and I am not worried about it in the slightest! I lost a certain amount of pounds they day I came home from the birth center with my new baby and the rest of it will come off when it comes off. I’m not worried about fitting into anything; it’s summer time and hot and I need to go with the flow and go for what is comfortable and easy! A lot of my pre pregnancy stuff and pregnancy things in the summertime are flowing and big! This is me - Mom face and all. The small stuff isn’t that important!
This is only a season of life! Remember that during such a special time and remember to be gentle with yourself. You welcomed a human being into this world, and life will never be the same. Nor should it. Embrace the changes and the transition of yourself into this new self and role during new motherhood, for the first or multiple times!